Well the last 2 weeks have been eventful. I'm still thinking about going home this morning, crawling back in bed and pulling the covers over my head so I can't see the light of day - UGH.
First off my son turned 18 on the 14th of this month. What is it about kids turning 18. Does a stupid switch suddenly come on and they can't remember what they've learned the past 18 years or is it that they just tune us out all of a sudden - Gosh almighty my kid is driving me NUTS. He's suddenly decided that house rules DO NOT apply to him anymore and I can't get him to put a dish in the dishwasher if my life depended upon it. And to top it off he's suppose to get information to two different Universities and now is trying to get me to do all his leg work because he's suddenly lost all mental faculties and just won't take the responsibility for it. My hubby and I finally told him that we aren't too sure if he's ready for a University and maybe he should think about city college until he can get his act together. His response? "In your dreams". Okay so now what....
Enough of the kid....
My job is keeping me busy because I'm trying to get everything ready for taxes on the corp and reg business to be done. So needless to say things are hectic around here too.
If all that's not enough I got a flat tire in the American Canyon on Thursday (not a really good spot - believe me!!) and after having the tow service (Provided by CHP - WOOHOO they're great - better than my AAA roadside service) replace my flat with the donut tire I proceeded into the next town to get a new tire put onto my car. There I am at almost 6 p.m. trying to find a tire place that is still open and has the right size tire for my car. Thank goodness for SEARS!!!!! They're awesome.
Okay so I break down this weekend and completely veg. Hey, I deserve it. I get up this morning and think " this week will be a heck of alot better".... but NOOOOOOO why should it get any better. I go to my car and the starter just clunked out on me. What the heck!!!! Anywho....
How was your weekend - LOL. It's okay just needed to vent a little. I'm really sane I swear!!!
Oh my Dutchie! Sounds like a rough week last week! Sounds like Anthony is starting to get "Senioritis". Aka: "GIVE ME MY INDEPENDANCE!!!" Don't stress yourself over it. He will get his act togther. Otherwise he'll be the one accepting the natural consequences for it. Welcome to being an ADULT, kid! Hehe! Has he decided where he is going to college?
And I so hate car troubles. Car troubles always make me want to to throw my hands up in the air and scream, "I give up!" Hope you get everything fixed, and it runs like a charm until you decided to get rid of it! ((((hugs))))), lady.
Hey I remember having "Senioritis". You want me to do what? At what time of the morning? You are truly insane! As much as I would love to tell you it's a phase and he will get over it, I have to be more inclined to thinking "manhood" has started setting in. Especially after reading the posts about your husbands and their sheer stupidity. Look at it this way, if he goes to a college farther then the city, he will have to be more responsible. Not to mention you have the benefit of not having to pick up after him, etc. There is always a bright side, you just have to put on coke bottle glasses sometimes to find it!
Anthony decided upon San Diego State (abt 8 hours from us), UC Santa Cruz (preppy party U about 3 hours from us), San Francisco State (about 2 hours from us and out of control psycho city) and then UC Davis (30 minutes from us which is preferable).
He doesn't understand the responsibilities and everytime I try talking with him it just pisses him off. Jeff and I are really frustrated at this point because Mr. Know It All has this grand vision in his head and we're trying to give him a little reality. I truly feel that's partly our fault because he's our ONLY baby and we've spoiled the heck out of this kid for the past 18 years. So I'll take part of the blame.
He's still doing well in school (that's the good part). He hasn't made curfew once since turning 18 and Jeff and I have always been lenient (1 - 2 a.m. on weekends). It's been that way for the past year and we've cut the apron string for the most part. But he think that 3 a.m. is just fine with him and we should accept that. The problem is that as parents it's really hard to sleep comfortably until your kids are home. Jeff falls asleep on the couch and waits for him. I usually stir about 2:45 and go out to ask Jeff "where's the kid?" Then the phone call to his cell phone to ensure that he's okay. I talked with one lady and she says that part of it never goes away (the worrying) - UGH.
Anyway - if we can get past the next 5 months and through graduation I think that a large hurtle will be jumped and behind us. Until then, I'm leaving everything in his ball court and if he sinks then I'll be there with CPR but I am starting to REFUSE to do these things for him. There's a difference between helping and doing - KWIM? I want him to realize (which I don't think he gets yet) that mom and dad will not be there by his side 24/7 and although we're a phone call away, he needs to step up to the plate and run the bases himself.
I think where ever he decides to go, it may be best that he lives on his own. I went to college an hour away, and lived on campus. My parents said a week of being on my own, and I was totally different person. (Like mature and responsible and stuff. Go figure!) Maybe that's all Anthony needs, to be on his own, making his own decisions and having to deal with it all as an adult. And if he is sleeping/living somewhere else, well, you and hubby might sleep a little better because you won't be waiting up. My mom always told me, "The more I don't know, the better."
Oh, I wish I had you as parents when I was his age! My curfew was like 11:30pm! Even when I came home on the weekends! Tell him he is one lucky dude!
Oh I couldn't agree more with him living on his own. Even if he's in Davis they require that freshman live on campus. I think it would be good for him and maybe you're right, he'll grow up once he's out and on his own.
We've always trusted that he'll make the right decisions on being out late. He doesn't like alcohol and has no desire for drugs (thank goodness). He's pretty smart and responsible when it comes to that. It was confirmed for us when I had to take him for a drug test when he applied at Krispey Kreme Donuts.
Good grief if I told Anthony that he was a lucky kid with having parents who trusted him to stay out late he'd say "whatever" - LOL. But thanks for the compliment.
Chels, Sounds like your parents and mine went to the same school for parenting. My curfews got more lienent after I turned 18 but I still had one until I got married at the age of 20 and moved out.
Duchie, I really feel for you! I have a step son that is turning 17 and he already thinks he knows everything! By the way his B-Mom passed away when he was 3 so I've been Mom since he was 4. It can be so frustrating sometimes and its even worse for me because I'm the step Mom. Maybe we can ride this out together. If you have any good sugestions let me know and I'll return the favor if I have any. Try not to worry to much about your son though it sounds like you've given him a good foundation to build on. I think your doing the right thing by letting him learn the hard way about a few things even though I know it has to be a little painful for you. After all we as Mothers can't stand to see our children get hurt or mess up but lets face it we can only do so much no matter how we feel about it.
Duchie, I think he wants to join the Army but sometimes he talks about opening his own lawn care business. Ty is a special kid in that he has over come loosing a Mother right in front of his eye's and he has learning disability. So collage is out but thats ok because I know he'll do something with his life because he's made it this far and it hasn't been easy.
Chelsea
Look at it this way, if he goes to a college farther then the city, he will have to be more responsible. Not to mention you have the benefit of not having to pick up after him, etc. 
There is always a bright side, you just have to put on coke bottle glasses sometimes to find it! 
