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Who is doing what with whom these days?

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Anthony turns 18 in January and I'm preparing a letter with pictures to send to the agency for his bmom.  I just want her to know that she's welcome to call, write or even come by and see Anthony anytime.  Anthony is ready now and I'm looking forward to seeing her again.


As for me?   I talk with my bfamily quite often and I've been reunited for 7 years now.  Gosh 7 years.  Time has flown by.


I just learned that my baby brother (16 years younger than I) and his wife just had their fourth baby.  The first three were triplets.   However there's a catch......  He had a vasectomy right after the triplets were born - LOL.  Ooops!!!  Not his but he's taking on the daddy role for Sebastian (the new addition).



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Wow! I cannot believe Anthony is turning 18. Is he going to write a letter as well? I am glad he is ready. I just hope his bfamily treat him well if he is reunited. That age it has to be scary to think of all the crap he has gone through and what might happen if he does reunite.

As for your reunion, I am simply amazed as to how well its gone. Did you do anything with them for xmas? Gifts?


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No they don't celebrate holidays due to their religion.  It's okay though.  This way I don't feel torn about where I want to be during the holidays.  It just wouldn't be the same spending it without the family that I "know".  That's the fine line for me with reunion. 


I'm not sure if Anthony will do a letter yet.  I'm sure his family will welcome him with open arms because we had the honor of meeting his bmom the day that he came into our lives.  She was very sweet but yet sad at the same time.  I'm sure that she is anxious to meet him and know what he's been doing the past 18 years.


I guess I shouldn't use the words "ready".  Is anybody really ready for reunion?  It's such a gamble but one that most of us are willing to take.   The ups and downs of reunion can be an emotional rollercoaster, but I will know how he feels and his dad and I are there if he feels up against a wall or something - kwim?



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Well... I'm still "staying" with the family in Texas. Right now in fact, I'm in my bmom's office while she puts together new furniture for her scrapbooking stuff, and my half-bro is trying to read my emails over my shoulder. :eye roll:

All in all... it could be worse. Am still hoping to save up enough to get out and get my own place sooner rather than later. But at least we're surviving each other fairly well these days. We seem to have reached an... "agree to disagree" position on most issues. And I try to stay out of the way and be as helpful as possible.

And I try to work. A lot. lol

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Well I personally have shut everyone out. I have gotten to the point of why bother? KWIM? The more I try, the worse I feel. So I am done.

The only thing I do now is email bfather updates on my bmother. Which last I heard she is home and regaining her strength from this last cancer surgery.

I have even cut wayyy back on the emails and ims I have sent my cousin. I just feel like staying in contact with her keeps me tied in with my bmother. I just can't deal with that right now.

Quite honestly if they all fell off the face of the earth, it wouldn't make me any difference.


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Adopted twice from China  :)

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Hello donna, tell us about the adoption.
I just found my bfamily last year and it going great.
bdad lives about an hour and half away from me and he's a hoot.
bmom lives about 5 hours away she a very sweet lady.

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Now I know who Donna is - lol.... WELCOME!!!  It's me - Zoeyzoo.  Oh my goodness the girls have surely blossomed.  They are adorable!!! 

-- Edited by Duchie at 08:13, 2007-03-16

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Hi -

We adopted twice - the first is an open international adoption (yep - it can happen).  We are in pretty constant contact with their birth Mom's parents, less frequently with Birth Mom, and only occaisional snail mail with birthfather.   The second is domestic and closed - not by our choice.  Birth Mom said she wanted to meet us, but went MIA.  I have as much information as I can get - but expect we will have a tough time tracking her down.  

Duchie -while I'm sure the real story is more juicy.... it is possible that his Vas. didn't work.  I had a friend in h.s. school whose Dad had one after baby #4.   When baby #5 came along....EVERYONE was surprised (small town)...but there was not extra-marital anything - it just well....happened.   I've never asked, but I bet her Mom went and stayed on the pill even after they re-vasectomied.........




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Michelle
I'm glad you're here!  How old are your kiddos?

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A vasectomy twice - ouch!!!!   I would love to take that into consideration because it can happen, but they were split up for 2 months when she got pregnant. 

-- Edited by Duchie at 19:24, 2007-03-19

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the WHEN is such a big thing isn't it? my EX sis-in-law was living with another man and moved back in with my bro the WEEK she conceived. We all held our breath - the xsil is beautiful - Italian olive complexion - brother is blonde/blue........the other guy was black....and - I hate to imagine what would have happened if it had been obviously not M's- I also have reliable info that says there was another guy in the mix - but - at this point......bygones. I don't know if it is fair to R - but so far very little has been, and the more consisteny he has - the better.

Chelsea - your little boy is adorable -

my sons will be 5 on July 3
my daughter will turn 1  on the same day

nice to meet you.

-- Edited by MandMsWorld at 19:34, 2007-03-20

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Michelle, I cannot believe that your boys will be 5 already.  And little Miss Steph is almost a year?  Time sure does fly by fast.  So, in your brother's situation who does the baby look like?



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