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StarryNight


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I had sent out an email to him last month telling him of my gallbladder surgery and never heard a word.  As you know we live like 20 minutes apart and I saw him twice last year.  I don't know what is in his head and he refuses to open up to me enough for me to even guess.  This is the email I received from him earlier today. As much as I would like a relationship with him, he is going to have to do better as being around me and talking to me, either that or stay out of my life completley.  I don't know what is worse, not talking/seeing him or having very limited contact with him.  I just don't know what to do.  I have made it abundantely clear that I want a relationship with him but he just does not seem to get it or want it. 

"thanks for the up date. hope you are doing better. I do a poor job of
reading my mail. an a bad job of answering any of my mail.  how long did
they say you should be off of work? I see by the date, that you are most
likely back to work now. are things running a long at an even pace. as
spring warms the season we gear up for the change. spring my ass. there is
about an inch of snow and it cold an windy as hell out. a couple warm days
were nice but the bad cold **** will hang a round for a while. spring
always takes to long getting here, an is to short to enjoy. snuggle up to a
friend an enjoy the warmth.   take care, SPIDER"


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I'm sorry Lyn.  It's a difficult situation. 

I think that some people in adoption don't feel a connection or they have terrible guilt about it and have a hard time dealing the it.  I feel that way with one of my youngest birth brothers.  He's 14 years younger than me and there's just no emotional connection.  I've invited him to our home several times with no replies but when he wants money to buy gifts for my birthmom then he contacts me and all the others and expects a reply.  The real sad part about it is that he doesn't really have a connection with the brothers and sister that were raised with him.  They attribute it to age difference.  Could be but it is irritating.

Sometimes you need to let go.  I had to do it and we'll see what happens from it.  It's a difficult thing to comprehend that someone with a biological tie to us would be that way but *sigh*... well you know what I mean.

Hugs to you!!

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