Hey there -

Not too much news.  My bbrother called me and asked if we were coming to see them in August.  Told him that I just started a new job and time off was virtually impossible. 

My bsister will be there at this time and frankly, I'm at odds with her right now.  She just doesn't know it yet. She is so "heck" bent (I'm being nice) about her daughter and dating that she's going to have the same situation as her oldest daughter.  She doesn't realize that the more she fights them the more they pull away and do what they want.  I mean - come on now..... her oldest daughter has 2 children now and is only 19 years old.  19!!!!!  She had NO communication with her daughter and used the "because" and "I don't have to give you a reason" and "our religion dictates" tactics that her daughter became overwhelming rebellious and pregnant.  But then again it does happen in the best situations too, so maybe I'm not being fair.

Her younger daughter wants to date (she's 15).  I explained to my sister that dating at her age doesn't mean an all night party, but maybe having her "friend" over for dinner and a movie or letting them attend a school dance or even taking in a movie (because neither are old enough to drive) wouldn't hurt the situation but  might help in keeping better track of her kid.  KWIM?  Instead I got the "oh I know better and I'll be darned if she ends up like D".  So in other words lets get the chastity belt out and put her in a closet until she's 30. Sorry but that's just going to backfire on her.

Anyway - I have no desire to get into it with her and I'm tired of them living by a religion that has NO scruples.  To me religion is loving, forgiving and compassionate. To them it's a competition to see who does the most. 

As for the rest of the troop - they're all fine and dandy. Talked with my bmom the other night.  She's one truly exceptional lady who's been through alot. 

We're hoping to get together with some of them this Thanksgiving. 

My bmom is great, she a very nice lady, I have just been thinking alot about my amom, because with all these wedding plans going on here, i know amom would have loved to be here looking at all the stuff,wedding dress, candles, what kind of food, ect,ect, In other words amom would have had fun in the planning of the wedding.

bsister is not the sister I allways dreamed about lol
she is 6 years older  then me,which that is ok, she 53. her oldest (son) just finish high school, her daughter still has 1 more year in high school,
I'm a grandmother. my kids are alot older then hers.
plus she allways has something wrong with her. she has alot of medical bills, and sometimes i think she goes to the doctors for no reason.kwim?
her son just got out of high school and he does nothing, he,s lazy, he wont get a job, or go back to school, or help around the house. He is just lazy.
I try and bite my tongue and not say anything, about how lazy he is. I just listen to her wine about her son and all her med. bills.

we do talk on the phone all the time. but it would have been nice if she lived back in florida so i can get to know her better. she moved to Ind. 2 years before I found them.

Chels, where are you going in florida?? I live in bradenton.

Nothing much new to report here.  I called bfather yesterday for some more medical information and told him it was amom's birthday.  She turned 84.  So I decided to go get our pictures taken at Wallyworld to "celebrate".  I think I managed to get a decent smile out of myself though I knew she would enjoy getting the photos done since we have not had them professionally done since I was a child.

Still do not hear from bmother or either birth sister.  Though the birthmother thing does bother me some.  So she is going to get a rude awakening when I send her one of the photos in 3 weeks.  Providing she once again has not moved. 

I spent some time yesterday getting more medical information from my cousin on bmother's side.  Seems like heart disease, high blood pressure and high cholesterol are the majority.  Thank heavens no breast cancer!  But still will go in in two months to have my first mammogram done finally.