Well, last night I dreamed about my birth father having this family reunion. He brought in this guy and told me that he was the other child that had been adopted out. (He has been hinting at for this issue for the past year in real life.) Ugh
This drove me nuts this morning. Which got me to thinking when I woke up, that I had not talked with him since April of last year ('07). Despite the fact he lives only 20 minutes from me. He could pick up the phone just as well as I can and its not like he does not know where I live at. But anyway So I call him. We talk for about an hour and a half.
Ultimately, he still is not happy with the way I went about rocking my birth mothers world. When I told her, I knew she had another child she relinquished and she could either give me the information or I would find out the hard way. Big deal he is ticked about it, I am tired of people keeping secrets from me! I told him this is lying by omission and I refuse to play games with anyone on this level. He said it was not his place to tell me anything more. Sigh God when will this insanity ever end???
He is also aggravated with me that I am not wanting to track down said person. With the help of my birth cousin, I have it narrowed down to somewhere between Oct 1966 after I was born, and Oct/Nov of 68 because that is when she got pregnant with my younger half sister. I dont even have a clue if this person is male or female or a better time frame. Birth father refuses to give up that information and is aggravated that I do not wish to pursue it any further with my skill he says I should be able to. BTW, Cuz... It was her, not him who had the other child.
Granted I may be able to, but I dont want to. I put all my information on ISRR and adoption.com registry. If a person is looking, they can find me or info about birth parents. After being so screwed over with what went down between all of these blood relatives can anyone blame me for not wanting to jump into yet another full blown search?
What do you think I should do?
It was nice to talk with him for awhile because I did learn more about my heritage and the way he felt about things, but I am reluctant to do anything about searching for yet another sibling.
Will appreciate any and all feedback about this subject. Thanks!
I'm just gonna throw this out there, but has it ever occured that maybe you have a twin out there. I mean if the dates are soooo close together you never know. With your birthdad being so closed mouth I really think that there's more to the story.
I'm not sure what I would do at this point. There's not too much that you can do except hope that something comes out of the post on ISRR. If you were adopted with a social service agency you can also register there. Also you might be able to find a search angel that may have records for the state. There are some out there and you can post... "Looking for search angel that can obtain or has access to records in (state)".... That's how I found mine, except the social services agency lady that I spoke with GAVE me the name of a search angel while she researched my records. I lucked out because the lady REALLY wanted me to find what I was looking for.
It's a never ending rollercoaster. Just hang in there and if there's anything I can do to help let me know.
